June 26, 2009
This is a message for those couples who put so much energy into raising their children that they forget about their own relationship.
As a divorced parent and married again parent I tell you this is dangerous and downright foolish. A happy marriage equals a happy family.
- Remember you and your husband were here first.
- Make your relationship a priority. Sure you love your kids, but they will be better off knowing you love each other.
- Look after your marriage as much as you look after your kids.
- Communicate, communicate. Tell each other everything – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Don’t let it fester.
- Kids feed off mom and dad’s love for each other. It’s healthy for them to see you kissing and hugging. It gives them a sense of security.
- Make time for each other. Sure this is hard at times, but so important.
- Make love not war. Sex is good for your relationship. It brings you closer and hey it’s that special thing only you have.
Always remember why you fell in love with your partner in the first place. Make an effort to keep the passion you had for your partner alive, sure it won’t be like the beginning, but be as passionate as you can about the relationship you have with each other. The rest will be easy.
May 27, 2009
The year 2009 for me is a time of reflection. Recently I turned 60 years of age. Part of attaining that age for me has been reflecting on my life so far. For many years I’ve been a history buff and amateur genealogist. Because of this it’s natural for me to look back on life’s victories and defeats. Here are some of the significant anniversaries in my 60th year, 2009.
- 60 years of paradise on earth, May 1949 to 2009.
- 40 years in the full-time work world, June 1969 to 2009.
- 34 years since I married, for the first time, 1975 to 2009.
- 31 years of fatherhood, 1978 to 2009.
- 23 years since end of first marriage.
- 10 years with the love of my life, Cindy.
The victories have far outweighed the defeats. Life is good. Now if I can just hang around for another 30 or 40 years.
February 9, 2009
February 12, 1999 I met Cindy. My first marriage ended in July 1986, so I had been single-again for almost 14 years. Cindy and I were married July 10, 2000 in the Cook Islands.
I had no intention of marrying again, and certainly had no desire to have more children. Cindy changed all that. She lit up my life.
She’s my friend, my lover, and the mother of our children. Cindy has stood by me in tough times. She has made me a better person.
We have a wonderful relationship. I look at the wedding band on my hand often. It symbolizes the love and respect we have for each other. I pray for many more years to spend with her.