June 26, 2009
This is a message for those couples who put so much energy into raising their children that they forget about their own relationship.
As a divorced parent and married again parent I tell you this is dangerous and downright foolish. A happy marriage equals a happy family.
- Remember you and your husband were here first.
- Make your relationship a priority. Sure you love your kids, but they will be better off knowing you love each other.
- Look after your marriage as much as you look after your kids.
- Communicate, communicate. Tell each other everything – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Don’t let it fester.
- Kids feed off mom and dad’s love for each other. It’s healthy for them to see you kissing and hugging. It gives them a sense of security.
- Make time for each other. Sure this is hard at times, but so important.
- Make love not war. Sex is good for your relationship. It brings you closer and hey it’s that special thing only you have.
Always remember why you fell in love with your partner in the first place. Make an effort to keep the passion you had for your partner alive, sure it won’t be like the beginning, but be as passionate as you can about the relationship you have with each other. The rest will be easy.
February 9, 2009
February 12, 1999 I met Cindy. My first marriage ended in July 1986, so I had been single-again for almost 14 years. Cindy and I were married July 10, 2000 in the Cook Islands.
I had no intention of marrying again, and certainly had no desire to have more children. Cindy changed all that. She lit up my life.
She’s my friend, my lover, and the mother of our children. Cindy has stood by me in tough times. She has made me a better person.
We have a wonderful relationship. I look at the wedding band on my hand often. It symbolizes the love and respect we have for each other. I pray for many more years to spend with her.
May 2, 2008
Sounds like a deep question, but to simplify just ask yourself this – what are the 5 things I value most in life?
There is no right answer to this exercise. It all depends on the individual and what is important to them and their well-being. With another birthday coming up, 59 years young this time, I thought I would have a look at where I am now in my life and here are my answers in order of importance:
1. Relationship with my wife. This is the root of all my happiness.
2. Love for my children. Darn they can be a challenge at times, but the love you get back its priceless.
3. Good friends. There is a country song by Tracy Lawrence and others now called, “Find Out Who Your Friends Are”. True friends stand by you through good and bad.
4. Health. Goes without saying, but you have to work at it.
5. Interests. Hobbies and activities that give you relaxation, stress relief, and maintain self-esteem. For me these include, philately, writing, reading, and golf.
“The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”, Stephen R. Covey, Free Press, 1989, 2004